Are You Special, Or Are You Unique?

3 Special or Unique

Many individuals have the idea that they are special, or that (certain) humans are a special creation of some kind – more important than other entities. The idea that we were specially created does not merely apply to mainstream religious thinking. It can also apply to those that consider themselves spiritualists, with no specific religion.

Obviously if one’s self esteem is low, or at least not as high as they think it should be, then the idea that they were: specially created, more so than any other ‘creation’, or even a part of something special, could only be seen as something positive. Therefore they would be quite willing to believe this idea.

Who or what is special?

To put simply the desire to feel special is a yearning to feel ‘above average’, rather than feeling merely ‘ordinary’. This desire to feel ‘special’ would usually be based on an emotional need (or more accurately a want), rather than a calculated one.

Of course one can intellectually formulate a plan on how to make themselves feel special, or to have others see themselves as such, but the initial desire is still an emotional one. If individuals have a desire to evolve, to improve themselves in some way, then feeling special or being considered special by others would be an obvious indication that one had bettered themselves; in so much as they are considered ‘special’ in comparison to their peers.

It is arguably far easier to merely believe (or more accurately be convinced by yourself or others) that you have evolved, rather than put any substantial effort into your own inner development. Therefore seeking to feel or be labelled as ‘special’ is one way of believing that you have bettered yourself; by effectively being thought of as better than those around you.

There are of course those that only want to be seen as ‘special’ in the eyes of a few select individuals, if not only one certain individual. These individuals may not actually want to feel as though they are better than anyone else. Rather they are likely seeking a sense of normalcy, at least in  comparison to those that they consider to be the norm, as their own self esteem is extremely low.

This can take the form, perhaps most prevalently, of wanting a lover to treat them as though they are the most special person in their life; subsequently increasing their self esteem.

The problem with ‘special’.

The main problem with the idea of ‘special’ is that it denotes that something else is not special. If special means something that is above average (otherwise why is it special?) then there would need to be that which was not special. If there was not then it would not be possible to distinguish between what was special and what was not.

Individuals have arguably an easier time calling something or someone ‘special’, than they do saying that something or someone is ‘not special’. Most of us don’t often consciously think of what is not special when we label something specific as special; especially in regards to a loved one. This is because labeling something as ‘special’ seems positive, while labeling something as ‘not special’ seems negative to most of us.

However when confronted with the idea that labeling something as special means that there must be something that is not special to properly distinguish that which was considered special, many individuals may become troubled by this notion. To then overcome this issue many individuals will employ a series of responses, perhaps the most common being that: ‘everything is special’.

If you were to say that everything was special then there would be no point in the concept of ‘special’ at all. If everything was suddenly deemed to be special, then sooner or later everything would become ordinary or average. In our current human condition there still needs to be a way of separating and identifying all the different things we are familiar with. Saying that everything is special would be tantamount to saying that everything existed. It is therefore not an overly useful way to describe all the different things in our world and beyond.

Saying that everything is special, but some things are more special than others things, is really just an overly polite, if not wishy-washy way of saying that some things are special and others are not.  Saying that everything is both special and yet different is just an emotional reaction. Everything is of course different to some degree if you look close enough, but labeling all of these things as ‘special’ is ultimately meaningless.

We live in a world where the idea of everything being special simply does not ring true, but nor does the idea that ‘nothing can be special’ seem true either. Different individuals in particular contexts will feel that certain things are special to them.

As we view things in this world and universe in a limited way due to our own limitations, everything will be viewed subjectively by every individual; human or otherwise. Therefore as everything and everyone is different, certain things will appear special to some, while seeming ordinary to others.

Individuals will inevitably feel more connected to certain things, therefore ‘liking’ them more than other things. It is these things that an individual deems to be special. These things can either make the individual feel positive in some way, or they are simply able to relate to certain things (usually other similar individuals) a lot more than to other things (dissimilar individuals).

Therefore the idea of ‘special’ can only really be used in a very subjective way and within particular contexts.

Unique rather than special.

In terms of our current, and most likely future human experience, the word ‘unique’ is far more apt. As previously mentioned every individual to some degree, even if it is seemingly minute to us, is unique and will always be so. This includes things we may subjectively consider to be the same – such as grains of sand or ants.

On close enough inspection, literally every ant or grain of sand will appear unique. Although obviously you need the natural skill or technology to be able to observe this properly. This is why we usually consider a line of ants, or a handful of sand granules to all be the same with our unaided and limited eyesight.

At first the idea of ‘unique’ may not seem as appealing as the idea of ‘special’, as special denotes something that is positive, as opposed to the idea of uniqueness, which can be either positive, negative, or subjectively neutral. This is why certain people may prefer to be called special, rather than unique.

Life and the entirety of existence however is not sentimental and does not label specific things or entities as special; it takes an individual to subjectively label something this way. The concept of uniqueness however has always been and will always be true, whether we as humans are here to label something as unique or not.

If you are still uncertain about this idea, the reason for why everything is unique is better spelled out in my book: The Reason For All Existence.

Davis McLeod

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About davismcleod

After venturing into the realm of loud music with my electric guitar during my mid to late teens, I finally realised that music creation was not my forté, and I slowly delved into writing in my early twenties. After initially entering the world of fiction, both in writing movie scripts and novels, I gradually became disinterested in the narrow format one was encouraged to pursue for even a modicum of success. Studying media, international politics and journalism at university soon guided my path towards the world of non-fiction. I then gravitated towards history, philosophy, metaphysics and generally the bigger questions in life: what is life about, and why and how did everything come into existence? As an avid traveller the various experiences of exploring Western Europe and teaching English in South East Asia encouraged new ideas and new ways of thinking. Although these ideas tended to be a reaction to the old and often outdated ideas of the past, there was also a realisation that certain questions, often the biggest questions, were not be being adequately addressed. Upon further research into the areas of metaphysics, along with modern religious and scientific debates, I was increasingly inspired to pursue some of the most 'burning questions' about existence; the end result being my first book on the philosophy of metaphysics. My website: http://www.davismcleod.com/
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